Calm the Body and Mind Before Your Big Day

The hustle is too real!

Listen, the stresses of everyday are hard enough. Trying to maintain a work/life balance, a social life, catching up on Queer Eye, exercising, eating healthy, trying to sleep at least 7-8 hours, while drinking enough water… Girl, that alone is a lot to handle! Then, if you are also planning your wedding on top of all of that, it will send you to crazy town if you do not take care of your precious and gorgeous self. I am here to help you out with just that!

Hopefully I can inspire you to take some time out of your hectic schedule for yourself, whether you are planning a wedding or not! Delegate tasks to a member of your family, your wedding party, or even your fiance and let them know that you need some time to de-stress. As women, we tend to take on faaaaar more than we ever should (I am completely guilty of that as well). Asking for help does not take away your Superwoman powers, it will actually enhance them since you will be well-rested and relaxed. So, put your phone on airplane mode, grab some candle, and some music to get this party started.

At the bottom of the blog I have listed some of my favorite essential oils to help you relax even further. You can even take these oils with you as you go about your day to help keep you calm and centered.

Take a Bath


I would take a bath everyday if I could. They are so relaxing and easily turn my mood around. If you are taking one in the morning you can add any citrus scent because of their uplifting and positive qualities. My favorite combination is grapefruit and eucalyptus (makes your bathroom smell amazing!). Or, if you are taking a bath at night, lavender is your go-to since its aroma calms to body and mind. Add 1-2 cups of epsom salts to the water for detoxifying the system and soothing sore muscles.

If you don’t have a bath or are short on time, just use your shower! Drop a few drops of eucalyptus oil on a wet washcloth and place that around your shower head. The steam will help carry the scent around your bathroom, which will clear your head and uplift your mood.

Oils: Grapefruit, eucalyptus, lavender



You don’t have to be an avid yogi or expert at meditation to experience the benefits. You don’t even need a membership to a studio! YouTube has a plethora of amazing instructors that have free videos that range in lengths and level of difficulty. All you need is your laptop/phone and a mat or a towel to practise on. Pick a room in your home that makes you feel comfortable and has less distractions (like a TV on in the background of people talking). You can use oils such as lavender and frankincense (a few drops on your mat or on your wrists) for deeper relaxation. Then, pick a video and let’s get on that mat!

If you want to try meditation, all you need is you and your breath! Again, find a quiet and comfortable spot in your home and rest in a comfortable position. You can sit cross-legged with you back erect and relaxed or you can lie your back or even on your side. It doesn't matter how you sit as long as you are comfortable and your breathing isn't impaired (avoid lying on your stomach). Close your eyes and breath in and out normally. Focus on your breath as if you were a bystander watching the air enter and leave your body. You are not forcing it but simple witnessing the breath. Let thoughts and mental images slowly quite down.


When my mind is too distracted it helps to think that I am “breathing in” and “breathing out.” This anchor helps focus my attention back on my breath. Sit for 5 minutes or longer. You can turn on some gentle music to help your practice and use frankincense increase the spiritual nature of your meditation. Place some of the oil on your wrists and chest.

Oils: lavender and frankincense



Getting out into nature is an instant mood booster. Fresh air and sunshine is the perfect remedy after being stuck indoors all day long working on the computer. I love taking Kyra, my dog, out for a walk around our neighborhood. It helps clear my head, stretches both of our legs, and I take the time to listen to podcasts or an audiobook. I actually think of my best ideas for blog posts or life predicaments when I go for walks (also in the shower funny enough).

My job as a health coach requires a lot of time in front of screens, which causes me to get headaches from time to time. When I go for walks, I will grab my bottle of peppermint and put some on my temples, wrists, and behind my ears. The minty scent will clear my headache and gives me so much energy to continue my day. If you are feeling overwhelmed and a bit down, add some grapefruit to boost your positivity.

Oils: peppermint and grapefruit

My Favorite Oils

1. Lavender (relaxing: yoga, bath, sleep)


When I hear the word “essential oil,” I instantly think of lavender. It’s a staple to any essential oil collection and it’s the perfect scent to start using as a beginner. Lavender has a fresh and floral scent as well as powerful calming properties, which is why the oil is so popular and well loved.

It’s the go-to oil in my house for anything from relieving stress to healing burns. The smell also brings me back to when I was younger because my mom was an avid essential oil user and my sisters and I were her patients. It might also be my favorite because purple is my favorite color. Thinking back to our wedding day, I now know why the day had such a relaxing atmosphere. It was all the dried lavender flowers and colors we used!

Uses: drop a couple drop on your pillowcase before bed for a relaxing night’s sleep, on your yoga mat to infuse your practise with a calming scent, or even in your bath (add some epsom salts for detoxifying properties). If you are feeling strong emotions of excitement and anticipation leading up to your wedding day, put some lavender on your wrists and on your head behind ear. It will help you stay mellow so you can get rest!


2. Frankincense (grounding: meditation, skin)

This is a new discovery that has been a surprise! I ordered an essential oil starter kit that had the oil included with a bunch of others. Frankincense has skin healing properties that have been helping with my acne and scars. It also has spiritual and grounding elements that can enhance meditation and pray.

Stress messes up my digestion which in turn causes my breakouts. So I have been using the oil as a spot treatment on my skin and I can tell a difference! My skin tone is much less red around the areas where I tend to get acne (jaw bone, right check, and in between my brows) and it also helps with fine lines. I will also diffuse the oil along with grapefruit (number 5 on this list) to grounding my energy and boost my mood!

Uses: As a spot treatment for acne or on troublesome areas on your face. Place a few drops on your wrists when meditating as the oil has spiritual and grounding qualities.


3. Peppermint (fresh: headaches, bloating and digestion)

Like lavender, peppermint was a staple in my childhood home. My mom would always give us peppermint in some water if we had tummy troubles or put some on our temples for headaches. It has a fresh and tingly sensation and it is a lifesaver! The herb has been used for centuries for its medicinal properties. They have even found traces of peppermint in Egyption pyramids, mentions in Greek mythology and in ancient Chinese medicine! A natural remedy for tension and digestion problems with no side effects? Sign me up!

Uses: A drop in warm water as an invigorating and digestive tea. Relieve headaches, stress, a groggy mind, and tension in shoulders by placing the oil on your temples and on the back of your neck. If the oil on its own is too strong, use coconut oil (about a dime sized amount) to dilute the peppermint. Mix the coconut oil with one-two drops of peppermint in your hand and rub it onto the back of your neck and shoulders.


4. Eucalyptus (purifying and cleansing: shower/bath, removes stale odors)


Eucalyptus is associated with the lungs and purifies stale and congested air. It’s great to help with any respiratory problems, like asthma, bronchitis, and even pneumonia! It has antimicrobial properties so it’s a great natural germ repellent to add to your home cleaners: laundry detergent, soaps, dishwashing liquid, floor cleaner, bathroom and toilet bowl cleaner. The options are endless!  

Uses: Mix eucalyptus with peppermint with some coconut oil for a DIY Vapor Rub. Store the ingredients in an airtight container and rub your chest with the mixture as needed. You can also diffuse eucalyptus overnight to help clear out colds and flu symptoms from the body or, for more instant relief, you can make a eucalyptus steam bath. Pour 1 cup of boiling water into a bowl and then drop 10 drops of eucalyptus. Hover your face over the bowl so you feel the steam, cover your head with a towel, and breath deeply for 5-10 minutes.


5. Grapefruit (happy: uplifting, positive, and helps with weight loss)

Grapefruit is an amazing oil to include to your daily routine to boost your mood, help with weight loss, fight inflammation, lessen hangovers, and relieve stress. How can one oil do all of that? I am diffusing it along with eucalyptus while I write this and I can tell I am more energetic and just extremely excited! Like eucalyptus, grapefruit has antimicrobial and antifungal properties. It has been shown to lessen the yeast in our guts that can cause candida and reduces cravings. It helps eliminate bloat, excess water, and stimulates your liver and gallbladder to get rid of toxins after a night of too many dranks.

Uses: Diffuse the oil in your home, add one-two drops in a large glass of water, or use it topically on your neck and wrists.*


*Anytime you intend to ingest an oil make sure you are purchasing 100% pure therapeutic oil that only has one ingredient, which is the oil. Make sure to buy all your oils from a reputable company to receive oils safe for internal and external use.

Who needs a fancy and overpriced spa when you can create your own at home! Use the oils about to enhance your relaxational experience and make some lemon/mint/cucumber water and you are good to go! 

If you have any questions or you would like to know where I get my oils from leave me a comment bellow OR send me an email:



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