Stress-Free Wedding Planning? It's Possible with These 4 Tips
This time in your life should be about wedding bliss - hold the stress.
Unfortunately, that is easier said than done! And I know what you must be thinking. Christina, “stress-free” and “wedding planning” do not go together in the same sentence! And yes, most brides will feel so overwhelmed during the planning process that the thought of eloping becomes more and more appealing. There are so many decisions to make and so many details to coordinate that you’ll find yourself wondering why people willingly decided to plan weddings for a living! BUT I promise you that you can absolutely enjoy the planning process and I am here to help you through this. Your wedding day will be one of the most special memories that you will cherish for years to come so let’s make the time you spend planning just as memorable (in a good way I promise).
So, since I planned our own wedding, I wanted to share with you the key points that I learned so that it might be of help to you when creating your special day. Starting out, I felt pretty qualified for the job since I already had several Pinterest boards ready-to-go waaaaaay before I even met my husband and I had watched FAR too many strangers' wedding videos on YouTube. And yes, I proceeded to ugly cry (snot and all) after every single one.
Although every situation is different, by using my top four tips you can reduce the amount of stress that both you and your partner experience, realize what YOU want from your wedding, and how to take care of yourself during such an emotional time in your life. SO let’s get to it!
1. Figure out your partner’s and your own planning styles
My husband and I couldn’t be more different when it comes to making ANY sort of plans, whether it’s scheduling our days off together, vacation time, or our wedding. I am very organized and I like to plan waaaay ahead so that I know that everything has been scheduled and booked. My husband is far more spontaneous, lives very much in the moment, and since his work schedule is so unpredictable (that’s the restaurant industry for ya!) planning is even harder. So, we both had to learn (after several arguments) how to work together to understand each other’s planning methods when organizing our special day instead of getting frustrated.
Action Plan: After you’ve popped the champagne, celebrated your engagement, and are ready to begin with setting a date, sit down together (wine always helps) and discuss how you both approach planning. This will save you from bumping heads and a lot of arguments!
2. Plan Your Day and Realize What is Truly Important
Weddings are extremely exciting for you, your fiance as well as your family. Even if it’s with all the love in the world, people will voice their opinions and suggest that you shouldn't wear Converse at your wedding (when we first met, my husband and I bonded over the fact that we both had purple Converse, so it's now our thing) or that you shouldn’t pick that shade for your bridesmaids. Make sure to have honest conversations with your family to let them know that you appreciate their suggestions but you have thought through what you want to experience on your wedding day. You do you girl cause IT IS YOUR DAY! Make sure you feel comfortable with the decision you are making. Even when you ideas clash with those of your fiance, take the time to listen to the other person and compromise where possible.
The second part of this tip might be the MOST important one of them all! This was the point that I struggled with the most and I would often forget about. Although I didn’t have any Bridezilla moments, I did have a bit of a freak-out one night and my wonderfully caring husband calmed me down with the power of pen to paper.
I was freaking out about something to do with our reception (it was late and I had had a long day at work) and I was beginning to worry that the wedding wasn’t going to turn out like I had dreamed. So, my husband told me to breathe and started asking me what my priorities were for our wedding day . After I had finished and he had written down my answers, it was his turn. When we were both done, the paper in front of us showed that we both wanted to have a fun night together with our families, we wanted to feel relaxed and be present, we wanted to sit down and eat amazing food (we had sooooo many people tell us that that was totally unrealistic as the bride and groom), and we wanted to dance under the stars. That was it. Simple. After doing this I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders because I realized that nobody was going to care about the details. They were coming to see Tim and I get married and celebrate such a loving and monumental occasion. And guess what? Our wedding day was so relaxing and enjoyable! It truly embodied our personalities and I still get compliments from family and friends of just how much fun they had. It really was the best wedding we could have possibly created for us as a couple.
3. If Possible, Hire a Wedding Day Coordinator
We knew that we didn’t want to hire a wedding planner. I was determined to do it myself and didn’t want to spend the extra money. All I need was the help from my crafty Maid of Honor, bridesmaids, and our BFF Pinterest. The thing we did do was hire a wedding day coordinator through our caterer and I cannot tell you how happy I was with that decision. She handled the rehearsal (no one had a CLUE what we should be doing, even me!) and everything the day of the wedding. It allowed my bridesmaids, family members, and myself to enjoy the wedding rather than coordinate the logistics of the rehearsal, setting-up for the wedding, mealtimes, our departure, or clean up. Having someone taking the lead made the day incredibly easy going, I didn’t have a thing to worry about, and we could focus on our special day. So, if your budget allows for it, I would highly suggest a wedding day coordinator.
4. Take care of yourself
This is suuuper important to remember when you are planning you wedding! Actually, it's something to remember everyday! As women, we tend to fill our to-do list with a crazy amount of items, working hard at our jobs, and caring for our families which can quickly lead to exhaustion and high levels of stress. Add wedding planning onto your plate and you have a meltdown WAITING to happen. So, take time for yourself during this incredible busy time of your life. Achieving a work/life balance is incredibly hard but it is possible.
Action Plan: Begin by scheduling just 10 minutes a day (during a time you know will work for you) where you do something for YOU! Take a bubble bath instead of a shower, read a few pages of a book with a candle, swing by your favorite bakery on your way home and pick up your favorite treat, or just sit in sit in silence while focusing on your breathing. By taking a few moments for yourself, you will start to notice less stress overall and you will feel a better balance between work/home life.
There you have it! My four tips to a stress-free wedding planning experience. I hope these tools help you along your way and that it allows you to enjoy your wedding day with as much love and happiness as I did!
Stay tuned for next week's post! Leave me a comment if you have any questions or if there is a topic related to weddings you would like to read about!