Stress-Free Wedding Planning? It's Possible with These 5 Tips
This time in your life should be about wedding bliss - hold the stress.
I know what you must be thinking: "Christina, 'stress-free' and 'wedding planning' do not go together in the same sentence!"
And yes, most brides will feel so overwhelmed during the planning process that the thought of eloping becomes more and more appealing. There are so many decisions to make and coordinate that you’ll find yourself wondering why people willingly decided to plan weddings for a living! BUT I promise you that you can absolutely enjoy the planning process and I am here to help you through this.
Your wedding day will be one of the most special memories that you will cherish for years to come so let’s make the time you spend planning just as memorable (in a good way I promise).
So, since I planned our own wedding, I want to share with you the key points that I learned to help you create your special day. Let’s get to it!
1. Figure out your planning styles
Whether it’s scheduling what to do on our days off, planning our vacations, where to spend Christmas, or even our wedding, my husband and I couldn’t be more different. I am very organized and I like to plan waaaay ahead and my husband is far more spontaneous. He lives very much in the moment and, since his work schedule is so unpredictable (that’s the restaurant industry for ya!), planning is even harder. So, we both had to learn (after several arguments) how to work together to understand each other’s planning methods when organizing our special day instead of getting frustrated.
Action Plan: After you’ve popped the champagne and celebrated your engagement sit down together (wine always helps) and discuss how you both approach planning. This will save you from bumping heads in the future and a lot of arguments!
2. Plan Your Day
Weddings are extremely exciting for you, your fiance as well as your family. Even if it’s with all the love in the world, people will try to voice their opinions.
Action Plan: If this becomes overbearing, make sure to have honest conversations with your family. Let them know that you appreciate their suggestions but it's your day. It might help to give them a task to do, like make the guests' name cards or help with any decor that needs assembling. That way they'll feel involved and it will be one less thing on your to-do list.
3. Realize What is Truly Important
For the most part, planning our wedding was pretty smooth. I did have a bit of a freak-out one night and my wonderfully caring husband calmed me down with the power of pen to paper.
It was about something to do with our reception (it was late and I had had a long day at work) and I was beginning to worry that the wedding wasn’t going to turn out like I had dreamed. So, my husband told me to breathe and started asking me what my priorities were for our wedding day.
After I had finished and he had written down my answers, it was his turn. When we were both done, the paper in front of us showed that we both wanted to have a fun night together with our families, we wanted to feel relaxed and be present, we wanted to sit down and eat amazing food, and we wanted to dance under the stars. That was it. Simple.
Action Plan: Grab your fiance and make your own list!
After doing this I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders because I realized that nobody was going to care about the details. They were coming to see Tim and I get married and celebrate such a loving and monumental occasion. And guess what? Our wedding day was so relaxing and enjoyable! It truly embodied our personalities and I still get compliments from family and friends of just how much fun they had. It really was the best wedding we could have possibly created for us as a couple.
4. If Possible, Hire a Wedding Day Coordinator
We knew that we didn’t want to hire a wedding planner because I was determined to do it myself and didn’t want to spend the extra money. All I need was the help from my crafty Maid of Honor, bridesmaids, and our BFF Pinterest.
We did end up hiring a wedding day coordinator through our caterer and I cannot tell you how happy I was with that decision. She handled the rehearsal (no one had a CLUE what we should be doing, even me!) and everything the day of the wedding. It allowed my bridesmaids, family members, and myself to enjoy the wedding rather than coordinate the logistics of the rehearsal, setting-up for the wedding, mealtimes, our departure, or clean up. Having someone taking the lead made the day incredibly easy going, I didn’t have a thing to worry about, and we could focus on our special day.
Action Plan: If your budget allows for it, I would highly suggest a wedding day coordinator.
5. Take care of yourself
This is suuuper important to remember when you are planning you wedding! Actually, it's something to remember everyday! As women, we tend to fill our to-do list with a crazy amount of items, working hard at our jobs, and caring for our families which can quickly lead to exhaustion and high levels of stress. Add wedding planning onto your plate and you have a meltdown WAITING to happen. So, take time for yourself during this incredible busy time of your life.
Action Plan: Begin by scheduling 10 minutes a day (during a time you know will work for you) where you do something for YOU! Take a bubble bath instead of a shower, read a few pages of a book with a candle, swing by your favorite bakery on your way home and pick up your favorite treat, or just sit in sit in silence while focusing on your breathing. By taking a few moments for yourself, you will start to notice less stress overall and you will feel a better balance between work/home life.
There you have it! My 5 tips to a stress-free wedding planning experience. I hope these tools help you along your way and that it allows you to enjoy your wedding day with as much love and happiness as I did!
Stay tuned for next week's post! Leave me a comment if you have any questions or if there is a topic related to weddings you would like to read about!